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124- Natural defenses

These days I’m spending a lot of time thinking about, and being with, my sister as she comes to terms with the fact that she has cancer. She is having to face her fears and grief, deal with it all, and ready herself for the fight ahead. This is no ordinary fight – it is the fight for life, the most precious gift we can ever be given.

There are still so many unknowns but one thing I do know is that hope, faith, love, trust and the power of positivity are all part of the healing process. This is another journey my sister, and all of us who love and care about her, have embarked on. Life takes us to places we never imagined or didn’t want to imagine.

Many people have trodden this path. We are not alone. Yet this is our unique journey and at the moment it is raw and very painful. We are all relying on our natural defenses to deal with the shock of the diagnosis and its reality.

Today I noticed something unusual on the footpath as I drove down a street. I had to stop and investigate it. As the wind swirled around this protective covering of whatever was underneath it would puff out and make whatever was underneath look huge. Then as the wind calmed down it would deflate and look so tiny. Beneath the cover was a scooter but at times you imagined it was the biggest, meanest looking motorbike that would take on anyone and anything.

Animals protect themselves in this way all the time. They live with the daily threat of natural, and man made, enemies and their natural defense is either to fight, to fool or take flight.

If we think about it we humans have all these same natural defenses to things that threaten us. We have the ability to take flight – by running from it, avoiding it or pretending the threat doesn’t exist. We are able to fool others through our behaviour – what we say, how we act, how we look, how we react, what we do and don’t do. We also have the ability to fight – physically, emotionally, spiritually and intellectually.

Let’s face it, we are extraordinary. That is, if we allow ourselves to be.

As Randy Pausch said in his Last Lecture, “You just have to decide if you’re a Tigger or an Eeyore.”

We all have the gift of choice. We decide how we will respond in any given situation. We decide what’s worth fighting for and what isn’t. We decide how we will go forward from this moment. This is in our control.

16. Every day looking at the order of things gives you power.
23. Every day retain your personal power. It belongs to you. No one else.
24. Every day is a journey. Not a destination.

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